Unimaginable Loss

I have written before about how spirituality can assist us when we lose a loved one. Within the last week, I learned of the death of a 15 year old girl. Her life took a sudden turn and she was gone within a week. The cause of the collapse was still unknown the last I heard. I hope by now the parents know the reason. They will surely need some iota of understanding to accept this horrible tragedy. As a nurse, putting a diagnosis to an illness can help to provide a ”justification” for an illness/death. But that is only for the clinical aspect of the case. What remains is purely personal and emotional, especially when the person who has died has some sort of connection to you. I didn’t know the girl personally. I have known her grandmother, D, for almost as long as I have known my husband. D is a kind, loving and beautiful spirit who is a treasure to many people. I haven’t spoken to her yet. I know the time will come when I will be in her presence. I already am searching for the right words to say to her. My heart just aches for the entire family. How do you reconcile such an event? There was no long illness or injury to justify it. Only loss. Only unimaginable heartache. My entire being suffers with her parents. I don’t know them well, but I know they are good and loving people. I hope that on some level that they know they will always be able to communicate with their daughter, but for now and for a long time to come, the loss will be insurmountable. It is times like this that I have the realization, that when everyday life is normal or boring, it is a great day. Everyday my husband, kids and family are ok, it is a good day. Even on the days when there are illnesses or bumps in the road, life is still pretty sweet. I know that life is good because there is love. Be sure to see the love and sweetness in your everyday world. Please send prayers and love to those who are suffering now. As the saying goes, “what goes around comes around”. Someday those prayers and love will be returned to you.