Stop The "Me" Cycle

What does it take to realize that the things we want may not be the things that are always best for us? As humans, we can get caught up in the "me” cycle and get tunnel vision. It is so easy to do in this society. Getting wrapped up in this cycle can make it so easy to hurt the people close to us. The "me" cycle can lead to addictions, affairs and even ill health. For some of us, to break the cycle, it takes a punch to the gut. The punch comes when realize we have let our children, our parents/siblings or our spouses down. Seeing the hurt in their eyes is devastating. Immediately we want to erase the reality and pain of the situation but are paralyzed to do so. The weight of the internal hurt from the selfishness and the pain you have inflicted can cause you to crumble. You may wonder, “How do I go on”? “Where do I go from here?” “Will I ever be forgiven?” “Will I ever be able to forgive myself?” The key is to not get ourselves into these types of situations to begin with, at least not to the extent of the extreme scenarios above. The best way to do this is to realize we are a part of this great universe. Be active and take part in its’ wonder and beauty. Make yourself part of a group. It doesn't have to be a spiritual one, just a group with good intentions. Some examples are a church group, a neighborhood or parents group or even a book club. You could volunteer for a local charity, children’s club or food shelter. You could make sure you go and see your parents weekly and assist them or just listen to them. Seeing the world from another's eyes can do wonders to open up the world that you see and live in. This can end the tunnel vision and get us out of the "me" cycle. Spiritually we are all one. We just need to remember that.